Be true to yourself

              作者：Jay 加拿大人

   As one matures and the human condition becomes clearer, one needs to pursue such drives as acceptance, being valued for who we are and especially to love and be loved.  The human spirit must be nourished by giving and receiving love and affection. Once one understands and accepts these inborn realities then we can apply them to our relationships. Gay or straight, we are human spirits who require acceptance and love. 

   I believe that when two individuals (male & female, male & male, female & female) meet and a special connection becomes apparent, then a decision to continue must be made. If at that time they decide to share a life together, then love must be the binding factor to maintain this relationship. A gay guy involved with a straight person needs to address the issue. There are many options to consider and challengers to overcome, yet it is possible. All relationships 
require hard work and constant nurturing, yet the resulting peace, contentment and fulfillment is well worth this investment in one's life. We live life to the fullest.   

      Here are my own personal thoughts.  

                 做真实的自己

   当人慢慢成熟，而且人类的社会环境变得更加开明的时候，（ｇａｙ）就会容易被人接受，从爱和被爱中，得到自我的肯定，从而实现自我的价值的本能诉求．人的精神必须通过爱与被爱等情感来培育．只有知道并且接受了作为gay这一与生俱来的现实，他们才能把这种认知体会贯彻到感情和婚姻关系的处理中去. 同志也好,直男也罢, 人人都是需要被认可和关爱的.
     我相信,当2个人相遇(男女，男男或者女女), 而关系越来越明了时, 很自然地需要决定是否继续交往了. 如果当他们决定共度此生, 那么爱就是维持彼此的关系的必要因素. 当Gay陷入和直女的关系中,也必须要考虑这个因素. 这里有许多的要考虑的选择，也有许多困难要克服，当然这些困难都是有可能克服的。
    所有的关系，（爱情关系也好、婚姻关系也好），都需要艰苦的努力和不断的付出，但我们也要考虑,这种关系所附生的平静满足和充实确实值得这样地付出.

    这是我的一点个人想法.  Jay